We have no idea the power of our influence over others. We do hear parenting principles like, "if you call your child stupid enough times, they will begin to believe they are." Its relatively simple for people to recognize or hear their words and intellectually curb this. But when we hold attitudes and expectations over others as we decide for them what they "should" or "must" or "need" to be doing, thinking or wanting, we are disabling them just the same. The attitude or perspective of disapproval, criticism or displeasure over others serves to move the object of your affection in an adverse direction.
If we want to see those we love move in a constructive way, here are a couple of things to consider:
- speak belief into their lives. "You are smart, you are creative. You will figure this out."
- be a champion of their potential. "I am going to stand on the sidelines and encourage with prayer and positive observations."
- wait for a question. "I am not going to interfere. If you need something from me, ask. I am there for you."
Love is sacrificial. It means sitting our our hands and waiting on God. Hard to do I know. But, oh so effective."
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